Co-Parenting Strategies for Divorcing a Narcissist

Introduction to Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

Co-parenting with a narcissistic ex-spouse can be extremely challenging. Narcissists tend to be manipulative, lack empathy, and frequently engage in parental alienation tactics. Trying to co-parent in a healthy way may feel impossible at times.

Defining Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Before diving into the specifics of co-parenting, it’s important to understand what narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) really means...

Common Narcissistic Co-Parenting Behaviors

When co-parenting, narcissists often exhibit behaviors like:

• Belittling the other parent
• Disrespecting parenting time/schedules
• Excessive litigation and disputes
• Parental alienation

Strategies for Successful Co-Parenting

While it’s difficult, there are some key strategies that can help make co-parenting with a narcissist smoother...

Set Firm Boundaries

Boundaries are essential for managing a narcissist. Some examples include:

• Limited contact
• Communication only about childrens' needs
• Refusing to engage in arguments

Document Everything

Due to their behavior, having documentation is vital...

Attend Therapy or Support Groups

Getting professional assistance can empower you to handle challenges better.

The Impact of Narcissism on Children

Experiencing a narcissistic parent can negatively impact children in numerous ways...

Signs of Damage in Children

Some things to look out for include:

• Anxiety
• Depression
• Difficulty with relationships

Healing and Recovery for Children

If you notice these signs, swift action is required. Some options to help children heal include:

• Therapy
• Building self-esteem
• Creating stability

FAQs

What are some typical behaviors of a narcissistic co-parent?

Common narcissistic co-parenting behaviors include belittling the other parent, disrespecting the parenting schedule, excessive litigation, parental alienation tactics, and using the children as pawns for manipulation.

How can I protect my children from a narcissistic parent’s damage?

Ways to protect children include getting them therapy, building their confidence and self-esteem independent of the narcissistic parent, teaching them healthy relationship skills, limiting their exposure to the dysfunctional parent, and countersuing manipulative litigation.

What communication strategies work best when co-parenting with a narcissist?

Experts recommend structured, low-emotion communication focused solely on the children using parenting apps, limited in-person interactions, and saving all documentation. Avoid arguing or trying to reason with them.

Should I inform my children about their narcissistic parent’s disorder?

It’s usually best not to label their parent as having NPD. Children may feel torn or assume blame. Instead, equip them with relationship skills, assure them the dysfunction is not their fault, and consider age-appropriate explanations if absolutely necessary.